coffee & cream update

I thought it would be good to give an update about the coffee shop. A lot has happened over the last couple months and especially recently. After doing a fund raiser at South Milford Church of Christ in December we were able to hire a company out of South Carolina that specializes in designing coffee shops. This is a very detailed process down to where every piece of equipment will go, along with electric outlets, drains, and much, much more. It includes a detailed document for the construction, as well as one for the health department. All of this was completed 2 weeks ago. There is an image of what the coffee shop will look like, while the seating will most likely be a little different it gives you an idea of the flow and what it will look like.

The second big item is that we our officially incorporated as a non-for-profit and officially have a name, coffee & cream of South Milford. The idea of the name came as Andrea and I talked about having ice cream as well as coffee, and Andrea immediately came up with coffee & cream. However, it is a common enough name that we had to add more to it, so that’s when we decided to add of South Milford since that is where we will be located.

The third thing just happened and that is we officially have a logo. We wanted something simple and unique and after looking at lots of different options this is what we have. Things are moving along.

God continues to move and put the right things and people in place and provide in amazing ways, and we look forward to what He has in store in the future.

God Is Doing a New Thing

When it comes to the spreading of the Gospel, we are living in one of the greatest movements of God in history. God is moving and the Gospel is spreading all over the world, and the world is being transformed. You may be surprised to hear this news, because if you live in the USA, you very well might not be hearing all that God is doing in the world and feel based on what you hear or see here that things are not going so well for the Church.

However, Gospel movements are happening all over the world in amazing ways. There are movements in India that have seen millions of new followers of Jesus and tens of thousands of churches. In fact, all over Asia, the Gospel is spreading like it never has before. Indigenous movements of the Gospel are spreading all over Africa, and maybe most surprising to some is that maybe the fastest growing church in the world is in Iran and other parts of the Middle East. In fact, Muslims are coming to Christ like we have never seen before, many through visions of Jesus. It is truly amazing how God is moving around the world.

But what about here, why are we not seeing the widespread movements of God here like we do in other places of the world? While I and others have opinions on that, that is not what I want to dive into in this blog, but that in fact new things are beginning to happen here. And while it may seem to some the American Church is dying at least on a surface level, I believe there is an undercurrent and awaking happening, but it just looks different than we are used to (looks more like what God is doing other places, which were not used to, and so we might be missing it).

Jesus talks about new wineskins for new wine (putting new wine in old wineskins, ends in disaster). I believe the Holy Spirit is working in America and new wineskins (expressions of church) are having to be used for the new wine (younger generation of Jesus followers). The Covid pandemic revealed many weaknesses in the Church of America, a major weakness being that too many local churches were just a Sunday gathering and little more (what a local church looks like the other 6 days a week tells a lot more than the weekend gathering). The American church has not been doing a good job of making disciples, which is our direct mission from Jesus (Matthew 28:19).

Yet it is in this current culture we are living in amid a global pandemic, deep political divisions, racism, and other uncertainties, people (especially young people) are ripe for the truth and peace that only Jesus can bring. While some churches continue not to adapt to our changing world and culture, others are recognizing through the power of the Holy Spirit the need for new wineskins. And many leaders are humbly learning from the Church in other places in the world that are seeing great God movements. Prayer and fasting movements are happening across the country as Jesus followers recognize their greater need for Him and obedience to follow His leading in the new things He is doing.

Disciple making movements are breaking out all around the country. These often look very different from the traditional church (however, some traditional churches are creating space for these movements to organically happen). These disciple making movements are usually a small group of people (5-20), often not Sunday centric or led by an ordained pastor or meet in a church building. They are often called microchurches, missional communities, or discipleship communities. While for some this seems weird or out of their comfort zone, many are recognizing this as necessary to reach our culture.

Local microchurch networks like Tampa Underground and Kansas City Underground are dedicated to the Gospel saturation of entire cities, and more are popping up across the country. Some megachurches have recognized this need and have radically changed their structure and function to be mission sending centers and starting microchurches connected to their body.

If we are going to see movements like we are seeing all over the world, we must be humble enough to learn from these churches around the world and recognize that God is doing a new thing here as well and ask ourselves if we want to be a part of what He is doing here, creating new wineskins for the new wine.

Family & Ministry Update 2021

When we sensed God calling us in a new direction in 2018, we left Bridgeway in October of 2018 and have been on the most exciting and scary journey of our entire lives. We have trusted God with so much, sometimes with many tears and hesitation. Yet over and over and over and over again God kept showing up in miraculous ways. It's like He intimately cares about us down to the smallest detail (hint: He does). Even when we struggled with doubt, He was faithful to show up again. I don’t have the space to write about all those miracles and God moments here, but if you want to know more about them feel free to contact us and we can set up a phone call, Facetime, or Zoom meeting.

So, what have we been up to? 2021 started with us buying my parents’ house, freaking out about how are we going to make monthly payments, getting COVID and quarantining for 2 weeks, freaking out more because now we aren’t working, and then watching God show up in miraculous ways once again! The Crowder song Good God Almighty was one that God used to help get my attention again, it says “I get amnesia, I forget that You keep coming around,. Yeah, ain't no way You'll ever let me down.” And so we continue to grow in our faith and trust in Jesus Christ. He is steadfast in His faithfulness.

We are continuing in our ministry partnership with South Milford Church of Christ (SMCC).  We are blessed to be a part of this church family and we serve there by co-leading the Sr. High youth group. Jeff preaches an average of once every other month. We continue in the process of starting a discipleship movement and discipling a group focusing on making disciples who make disciples. It has been exciting to see God move in the hearts of people as they grow in their faith and reach people where they live, work, and play for Jesus Christ.

One really exciting thing that has developed late Summer and Fall is plans to start a coffee shop as a space to bless and serve our community. Our dream is for this to be a natural place for spiritual conversations to happen (see blog post on Coffee & Cream). It seems that new developments occur almost weekly, and we are excited for what God has in store.

Besides ministering with SMCC, Jeff is driving bus at Prairie Heights and is the JV boys’ basketball coach, giving him a chance to get more involved in the community and build relationships with those we live around. Jeff worked part-time on the maintenance team at Oak Farm Montessori School (OFMS) for the past three years but left that role after picking up a full-time bus route this school year and coaching JV basketball because he just didn’t have the time he needed for ministry and family. 

Andrea keeps the house and family in order, or at least does her best with a family of 6. She loves her job at Campbell & Fetter Bank where she works in the proofing department three days a week. She keeps busy shuttling the kids (when Wesley can’t), attending their sporting events, co-leading the youth at SMCC, taking a coffee shop start up class and dreaming of days when she can stay home for 24 hours (it happens occasionally, and she enjoys being able to catch up on house stuff).

Wesley is 17 (where did time go?) and continues to thrive as a Junior at OFMS. He is starting to think about college and will do some college visits this year. He is looking at studying particle physicals (what is that?) and continues to love to learn and read a lot. Wesley is working two jobs, at a local dairy farm and at a local carry-out fish shack. He enjoys both of those jobs and was able to buy his first vehicle with the money he made.

Ethan is 15, has his drivers permit, and likes to drive when can. He is in his sophomore year at Prairie Heights. He started on varsity soccer this year and was named the Most Improved Player after the season and even had one goal while playing mostly defense. Ethan is now onto basketball and started the first four games on the JV team. Ethan is very involved with FFA and had a great time attending FFA National Convention at the end of October with 60,000 other students from around the country. He is thriving in his academics at school.

Elizabeth is 14 and an 8^th grader at OFMS. She is a great student, and her teachers love her leadership at school. She played soccer this Fall and is playing on the co-ed basketball team. She loves working on the school farm and tries to get farm pullout whenever she can. She was excited to get her braces off this year after having them for over 3 years.

Isobel is 11 and in the fifth grade. She is still very tall for her age, a head taller than many of her classmates. She played soccer and is in her first year playing basketball at OFMS. She has also played some on a travel team with a group of Prairie Heights girls. She still loves doing crafts and playing with her dolls and having fun.

All four kids were active in 4-H this year including showing pigs and garden tractor driving in which Wesley and Elizabeth were alternates to the state contest in their respective divisions. They all are involved in church youth groups and love their time with their friends and Bible study. In the summer they do much of the yard and garden work and do a great job. All the kids love going to the lake whenever they can to swim, tube, and ski. Having their cousins from Bolivia here part of the summer was a special treat for them as well.

Speaking of Bolivian cousins, James and Jenny’s oldest, Coy, got married on November 5 to Joy Holman in Celebration, FL. Our family spent a week down there and had a wonderful time enjoying the warmth and celebrating their marriage.

The other big news is that my mom and dad built a new house on the farm and will be moving in this December. Although my mom has enjoyed living the last two years at the lake cottage that has been in her family since 1948, they are excited to get settled into their new house.

We thank each one of you for your love and prayers, they are felt daily. 

If you would like to send an end of the year contribution to help support our ministry you can give directly to us or for a tax-deductible gift, write it to ECC. Checks can be mailed to-

6075 East 600 South 

Wolcottville, IN 46795

coffee & cream

What is the Coffee and Cream? It is a coffee and ice cream shop we hope to open in South Milford. Why would two people who don’t drink coffee want to open a coffee shop? That is a really good question. Since moving to the South Milford area we have been praying about finding/creating a third space for people to gather (see blog on third spaces).

In July of 2021 we were having breakfast with another couple that has the same heart as ours, for Jesus and our community. They had been praying with us for the same thing. The old brick building in South Milford had especially been on Andrea’s heart, so our friends said let’s call the owner and see what the deal is with that building. The owner is an HVAC company called J.O. Mory and the president said, why don’t you come look at it now. And so that is what we did.

This building (really 2 brick buildings connected) was built in 1893 and had been many things over the years from a bank to a grocery and clothing stores to having offices for J.O. Mory at one time. But it has been many many years since it had been really used except storing a few things. While general maintenance had been done over the years here and there, lots of work would have to be done to get it to a usable place to have a coffee shop there.

I shared our dream and vision of a coffee shop to the president as he showed us around the building, with its historic stamped tin ceilings and areas where beautiful big windows once were that had been boarded up for many years. We could all envision to one degree or another what this could be, but we also saw all the man hours and financial investment it would take.

As the president went back across the road to his office, I was thinking there is no way this could happen outside of a miracle of God. We estimated $20,000 to $30,000 to just get it to a place to start thinking about a coffee shop. Our friends said we could maybe fundraise or get grants to cover this cost. But again, that would be just enough to get the building into a usable place not all the expenses of converting it to a coffee shop. I will be honest, I was overwhelmed by the thought, and I think I said out loud, that if God wants this to happen, He will have to make it happen.

My thought was let’s pray some more and get together with are friends in a few weeks and see how we felt God was leading. God was ready to move a little faster than Andrea and I were. Two days after our tour of the brick building, Andrea and I drove by and noticed water being pumped out of the basement, two days after that we drove by again and saw doors open and could tell work was being done inside. I called my friend and said “Hey, do you know what’s going on at the building?” He had noticed the same and had contacted the president. When we had shared our vision with him, he got so excited he decided to start the extensive repairs almost immediately. Just some of the work they are doing is replacing floor joist and floors, foundational and brick work on the outside, water, and sewage (that’s how long it has been since this building has been used, it currently doesn’t have either), heating and cooling, and much more.

I was blown away by how quickly God was moving. While those repairs would take many months, we knew we needed to start moving. We contacted some family friends who started a coffee shop in March of 2020 (and survived) and met with them. They were and continue to be such a blessing. Andrea started taking a “Coffee Shop Startup” class online that came highly recommended. We began building a team around us, that love Jesus, and have more business and coffee experience than us. Things keep moving forward and miracles keep happening. We are excited what God has in store and will keep you updated as things progress.

What Are Third Spaces?

When we felt the Lord calling us to plant a church again in 2018, we intentionally took a year to prepare to plant well. In this year we decided that we wouldn’t take any concrete steps to plant a church unless we clearly felt the Lord asking us to take such steps. That year was a year of studying the discipleship principles of Jesus as well as the current culture that we are living in today. What we discovered of our current culture is that it is a post-Christian culture (explanation of that will come in another blog) and that 70% of unchurched Millennials and Gen Zer’s (basically anyone born after 1980) won’t go to church even if invited. Reasons for that is varied, negative perception of church, bad experience in church, no interest in church, etc.

If this is the case for the younger generations, and our personal experiences back that up, and since we want to reach younger people with the Good News of Jesus Christ, then it most likely will not happen at a church service or Christian event, because many will not go even if invited. So, we must think more like missionaries and reach them where they live, work, and play. Those 3 places (live, work, and play) are like the three places sociologist Ray Oldenburg describes in his book The Great Good Place. First place is where we live, second place is where we work, and third place is where we hangout outside of the first two places.

If the Church is going to reach the younger generations, we will have to reach people in these three places, but for this blog post I want to focus on the third place. The subtitle of Oldenburg’s book The Great Good Place, is Cafes, Coffee Shops, Community Centers, Beauty Parlors, General Stores, Bars, Hangouts, and How They Get You Through the Day. Those are examples of third places. A third place is a public setting that hosts regular, voluntary, and informal gatherings of people. It is a place to relax, a place people enjoy visiting. Third places provide the opportunity to know and be known.

Oldenburg list 8 characteristics of third places:

1. It’s a neutral ground, everyone is welcome, no requirements or invitations needed.
2. It acts as a leveler, people from all walks of life gather and there are no social or economic barriers.
3. Conversation is the main activity; talk is free to happen and often does on many different levels. 
4. It is accessible and accommodating. At their best third places are place to which one may go at almost any time of the day or evening with assurance that acquaintances will be there. They tend to be conveniently located.
5. There are regulars. There are people who go there on a regular basis.
6. They are often low profile. As a physical structure they are typically plain and unimpressive looking, often in older buildings as cost or rent is typically lower.
7. The mood is often playful. A third place is often a place with food, drinks, and games, where conversations abound, the mood is typically light and joyful, and anxiety can be released. This is often why people come back.
8. It’s a home away from home for some. It’s a place that people feel at home when they are there.

Obviously not all third places have all 8 of these characteristics, but you have probably seen a coffee shop, bar, hair salon, youth center, even a gas station and many other places as third places. A healthy community needs good third places for the community to gather, build relationships, and connect to one another.

For those of us who follow Jesus, it is a natural place for us to hangout and develop new relationships with the 70% who may never enter a church service or event. But through conversation and trust building may be open to the Gospel because of the story of your life intersecting with Jesus’ that they have heard, they may want to know more about this relationship with Jesus. This is why two people who currently don’t drink coffee are starting a coffee shop.

First Warm Days

Isn't this what everyone does on the first warm days of the year?  Get out your life jacket and swimming stuff and lay on the grass.  You can't see it in the top picture but Isobel was running around thoroughly enjoying herself.  Needless to say we are really enjoying this warm weather!

Hair Cuts All Around

So, here are some pictures from the recent hair cutting adventure.  We let the boys grow their hair out.  Well, after 6 months, Jeff and I were ready to cut it.  Also, Elizabeth had never had a hair trim, so she and I went and got our hair trimmed up last Wednesday.  So, here are some before and after pictures.

 Ethan before (with his hair all brushed out)

Wesley before (with his hair all brushed out)

 Elizabeth before

 Ethan & Wesley afterwards 

(they were in a bit of a goofy mood, so this is the best picture I could get)

Elizabeth as her hair was drying.

I forget to get a good after picture, but trust me, it is really cute!

Going Through Pictures

Here are some pictures I found from the last year.  

 

Isobel playing under a chair at the lake the summer.

  

Elizabeth checking out a calf at the Indiana State Fair this summer.  

Not really sure what she was looking at. 

Tin Caps Game

   This year we finally got with the program and the kids participated in the library's Summer Reading Program.  The kids had a blast doing this.  Getting our kids to read has never been a problem around here, so they were excited to earn prizes for something they already love to do.  Among the prizes were free kids meals at Applebee's (which we used this week), and free tickets to a Ft. Wayne Tin Caps game.  This also included a gift (bag) and a hot dog, chips, and a drink.  We had a great evening together at the ball park.  

   Growing up my family had season tickets to the Indianapolis Indians.  So, for me this was a great flashback to summertime growing up.  We loved going to the ballpark and watching games.  It was great to be able to do this with our kids (at a much reduced cost thanks to the library.)  Isobel did not join us on this venture.  She would not have appreciated being confined to seats during a 3 hour game.  Not to mention the 45 minute car ride each way.  Here are some pictures from the ballpark!